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DO I NEED COUNSELING



When Is It Time To Seek Counselling?


When anxiety, worry, or fear interferes with regular activities

When feelings of guilt persist and don’t yield to confession and the usual spiritual disciplines

When one feels perpetually like a victim

When anger seems uncontrollable

When a cluster of symptoms indicate stress-related concerns for which a physician can find no organic cause: frequent headaches, palpitations, shortness of breath, agitation, insomnia, loss of concentration

When reactions to loss are prolonged or unusual – typically, the grief process is very difficult during the first year, but indications of a renewed sense of meaning and effectiveness should begin manifesting themselves

When behaviours which conflict with accepted beliefs and values become uncontrollable

When moods become depressive or euphoric to the point of interfering with appropriate functioning or behaviour

When routine problem solving and the challenges of life seem overwhelming

When a traumatic event and/or abuse have been experienced or witnessed, whether in childhood or in adulthood

When there is a pattern of conflictual or failed relationships at home, work, or church

BEFORE getting married, particularly in the case of remarriage of one or both partners, and ESPECIALLY if children are involved

When it is sensed that there is a need for deeper intimacy which is not currently being met in a marriage relationship

When outstanding issues in a marriage continue to undermine an effective couple ministry as parents or in any other roles

When communication in a relationship becomes a vehicle for argument and hostility rather than for problem solving and affirmation

When normal life stages or unexpected events present greater than anticipated strain on the couple relationship: birth of a child, job loss or promotion, retirement, infertility, major trauma or illness

When the pressures of ministry threaten a sense of priorities within the couple and family relationships

When a partner or family member exhibits signs of mental illness

When the typical way in which discipline is handled within the family is not working, or seems only to contribute to increased rebellion or withdrawal

When a sudden change or regression occurs in behaviour: bedwetting, stuttering, nightmares, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, complaints to avoid engaging in activities previously enjoyed